Reap What You Sow

Many things go in and out of style but thankfully love isn’t one of them.  Still, it can get lost, taken for granted, or neglected.  Without reassurance, reconnection can feel impossible.  The path back isn’t easy, but neither is clinging to a love in disrepair.

When hopelessness sets in, resignation usually follows.  This is the breaking point, when many couples seek therapy, often too late.  A better crisis plan? Attend a wedding.  At a recent one, I heard a familiar scripture that struck me differently this time—not as a poetic backdrop, but as a manual:

“Love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres”
(1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

For a long time, I thought of love as a fixed state rather than a practice.  Now, I see it like a crop: flourishing in some seasons, uncertain in others, requiring constant care, especially when under siege.  In the wise words of this weekend’s groom, “there’s no finding love, only cultivating it”.  If you’re not ready to roll up your sleeves and be awakened by roosters, sow a different rowe.